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Meeting someone from online requires extra caution. Follow these guidelines to protect yourself when meeting in person.
Share where you're going, who you're meeting, and when you expect to return. Send them the person's profile.
Always choose busy public places like coffee shops, restaurants, or shopping centers for first meetings.
Verify their identity with a video call before meeting in person. This helps confirm they are who they claim to be.
Don't share your home or work address initially. Meet them at the location instead of having them pick you up.
If something feels off or you're uncomfortable, cancel or reschedule. Your safety comes first.
Drive yourself or use your own ride service. This ensures you can leave whenever you want.
Keep first few meetings in public areas. Don't go to private locations until you're comfortable.
Never leave your drink unattended. If you step away, order a fresh one when you return.
Keep your phone charged and easily accessible. Have emergency contacts on speed dial.
Know where exits are and have a plan to leave if needed. Keep your keys and belongings with you.
Schedule check-in times with your friend. Have them call if you don't check in.
Consent is ongoing - it can be withdrawn at any time. Respect their boundaries and communicate yours.
Let your trusted friend know you're home safely or the meeting has ended.
If anything made you uncomfortable, block and report immediately. Help protect other users.
Reflect on what went well and what you'd do differently. Continuous improvement keeps you safer.
Red flag: Someone pushing to meet right away without getting to know you first.
Red flag: Won't do video call or makes excuses. Could be hiding their identity.
Red flag: Requesting money, gift cards, or financial help. This is likely a scam.
Red flag: Aggressive messages, controlling behavior, or not respecting your boundaries.
Red flag: Stories about themselves don't match up or keep changing. Possible catfish.
Red flag: Insisting on private locations before building trust. Take your time.
Our safety team is here to help. Contact us anytime.